...कह देना तुमको याद नहीं

कोई तुम से पूछे कौन हूँ मैं

कह देना कोई ख़ास नहीं

वोह जागे यूँ ही रातों में

वोह रूठे छोटी बातें पे

चुप रह सब कुछ कहता है

न तैरता है न बहता है

वोह गाढ़ी नींद का ख़्वाब है

वोह ठहरा हुआ सैलाब है

वोह दरख़्त पे बैठी धूप है

वोह बारिश से उलझता काग है

वोह चुप है पर उदास नहीं

वोह पास भी है और पास नहीं

कह देना कोई ख़ास नहीं

वोह मील के पत्थर गिनता है

वोह तारों की बोली सुनता है

बाज़ारों में तनहा है

और तन्हाई भी उसे रास नहीं

कह देना कोई ख़ास नहीं

कोई तुम से पूछे कौन हूँ मैं

कह देना तुमको याद नहीं 

Rule # 114

If you want to help then be selfish; sounds contradictory heh?

Ok, lets talk some more about it. 
How does one help another? Financially, or by spending some other resource which you’ve and you spend it that helps and enriches others. So in simplest of form, you spend your time for others. 
All this is great, but you will never have non-depleting (double negations here haha) resources, and how will you gain those or accumulate those? By working/investing on yourself, by earning & saving enough to share, by keeping yourself in good health so that you can work/earn and spend/ share your fortunes with others. 
And that makes next rule.

114) If you want to help then BE SELFISH.

मैं उससे देखता ही रह गया

मैं उसे देखता ही रह गया 

वोह जो भी कहती  रही..... सब चुपचाप सह गया 

दिल ने बना रखा था जो सब्र का बाँध 

रोज़ रोज़ के सवालों से एक रोज़ वह भी ढेय गया 

मुद्दत से मैं खुद से खफा था बहुत 

अब के बात यूँ बड़ी खुद के ख़िलाफ़ हो गया 

आसमान भी खुल जाएगा और शब भी ढल जाएगी 

उसका क्या मलाल करे जो हो गया सो हो गया 

मैं उससे देखता ही रह गया 

वह जो भी कहती रही.... सब चुपचाप सह गया 

दिल ज़ेहन रोशन कर दे .....

दरवाज़े रोशन कर दे 

खिड़की रोशनदान रोशन कर दे 

दीवारें रोशन कर दे 

दिल रोशन कर दे 

निग़ाहें रोशन कर दे 

रोशन छत कर दे 

रोशन हर मुंडेर , छज्जा कर दे 

हर कोना मुस्कान भर दे 

हर गली रोशन कर दे 

आसमान रोशन कर दे 

इस दिवाली खुशियों से घर आँगन रोशन कर दे। 

"शुभ दिवाली "

Rule# 113

          As I’ve always believed anger is man’s worst enemy when it comes to personal relations. Anger needs proper dissection, after all it’s not just an emotion, it is your response to a certain situation. 
Things said or done in anger always end up in repentance. 
 So, key here is, how to control your response, and how to not let the situation to arise that can evoke extreme responses in form of anger. Things/situations can be controlled or played out in a certain way if we pay attention to the smallest of the things we do and say.  Wherever you are, be all there…perhaps a little longer.

113) Anger is nothing but your response to a situation;...pause and take charge of your actions and responses.

Rule # 112

112) Always remember, dropping someone to airport is not the tough part, but coming back to an empty home is. 

Rule# 111

Don’t disappoint God. Don’t disrespect yourself, don’t disappoint yourself.

Look around, it is a beautiful world; each and everything is nothing short of a miracle. The sky, clouds, trees, sun, wind, flowers, roads, cars, people; soak it all, it is so fantastic to be a part such a beautiful arrangement.  Every day, every hour, every minute is an opportunity to grow, learn, be amazed, smile and be HAPPY. We have no right, absolutely no right to crib about anything; God has been so so so kind and great. Every moment is a beginning, an irrevocable experience; feel it, absorb it to the bones; twinkling of stars, gushes of winds, birds, clouds they all are saying something; dissolve yourself in it. That’s the whole essence of life; breath it to your heart's content; life is ‘each breath’ we take, yes that’s it.

Don’t waste yourself by looking at or thinking about negatives; there are plenty of positives all around, just be thankful for that.

Don’t disrespect yourself; don’t disappoint yourself.

111) Don’t disappoint GOD.

Rule# 110

For today's rule, I'm posting a picture, I find it very fascinating and inspiring as well.

110) If ever feeling lost or down, then just remember this.

Rule# 109

When I was a student, I also did lot of completely unnecessary, illogical things in the class room , and why I did that, coz' there was a persona developed around me, that now 'he'll do something to make everyone laugh' and I always obliged whether I wanted to or not. Resist the urge.

109) Don't play for the gallery.

बदलते मौसम अक्सर उदास करते है......

बदलते मौसम अक्सर उदास करते है 

बदलते मौसम में अक्सर ऐसा होता है 

एक महक हवाओं में गूंजा करती है 

एक शोर कानों में ठहर जाता है 

ओस कुछ देर तलक टपकती है शब् भर 

और शब् गुज़ारे नहीं गुज़रती है 

शाम तक शज़र भी सभी सो जाते है 

पंछी बिन शोर करे शाख पर सो जाते है 

बदलते मौसम अक्सर उदास करते है 

बदलते मौसम में अक्सर ऐसा होता है 

बदलते मौसम में घर याद आता है..... 

Rule# 108

108) Cellphone's background image, yes that’s the fastest way to know about a person.

Rule# 107

This one is probably going to be my favorite rule, or at least as of now.

Lately, that’s the conclusion so far –

107)  “It’s all about the stories you tell others, and most importantly to yourself” that defines you and your life.

Rule# 106

Lately I’ve been reading and advocating a lot about ‘Visualize Future’ way of meditation. 

Transforming oneself into a future happy state, but at the same time (at least in my case) I see a 'kind-of flaw' with it, sometimes it flows in so many directions that it becomes difficult to keep track of ‘execution plan’. And often times it fills me with lot of anxiety and desperation.

So instead of getting overwhelmed by the magnitude of the whole collage, it is better to think in terms of ‘point-and-shoot’ pictures. Better to focus on creating a small photo as good, as enjoyable as possible, and after a while the big ‘collage’ will take care of itself. So keep your ‘tasks’ small, so that they have definitive ‘start-middle and end’. 

And that forms the next rule.

106) Point and shoot.

Rule# 105

Whenever your mind is in disarray, and peace is eluding you then go to a quiet place and PRAY. Pray for others, whatever you wish for yourself, pray for exact same for others; others could be random people walking on the street. 

105)  Pray for others and pray with all your heart.

0.1%

Not sure, what I’m going to write or what’s going on with me. Most probably it will turn into a long depressing rant, and will make ‘stronger’ case for people who perceive and call me a loser.

You know, what’s been haunting me for few days, months and years is ‘nobody cares’. Right, words have become too meaningless, conversations too shallow, it’s all so superficial. Like, ‘how are you? Or how are you doing?’ Do we/they even know what they/we are asking? Do we/they really want to know? Are we/they willing to listen? Willing to spend energy on someone? Willing to make a connection or investment in someone? 99.9% answer is a resounding NO.  

But still, interactions/conversations rotate and revolve around these, but WHY is it that? May be it’s the curiosity, that’s it. And at times, just to use other’s misery/success as benchmark for measuring our own life. Ohh this this guy is in such a mess, and my life is way better than him, or oh he is such a lucky chap and I’m down in the dumps. It’s like evoking our emotions (happy and sad) based on someone else’s.  That’s probably is the biggest poison, when we start treating other’s gain as our personal loss. Someone got a good job becomes ‘oh my life is so pathetic’, when someone buys a luxury car or vacation or house, it immediately becomes ‘my life is such a suffering’. If you are happy ‘no body cares’, if you are sad then again ‘nobody cares’. What’s going in your head, what you are thinking, what is troubling you? – Nobody wants to know, nobody cares. And I really can’t stress on this – nobody cares.   Yes, only curiosity is there, in same way as we like to watch reality shows (or peek into people’s Facebook profile). 

Earlier you come to terms with it better it is for you.  On contrary, if that’s what life is, then why do we want others to care? Why do we want others validation? Or interventions to validate our happiness or sadness? It’s like expecting others to give you a priority treatment on freeways because you had a tough day at work. Like you can hear happy or sad songs while driving depending on your mood but nobody cares in what mood you are driving or what’s going on in your life.

Consider yourself luckiest even if you have just one person in the life who really cares. Parents/siblings/spouse/friends everyone will care but till a certain point, after that you are on your own.  Choice is simple (simple things are most difficult), just become that other 0.1%.

Rule# 104)

Here’s another one, hope this will make sense someday.

Usually your system password expires in 30/45 days, and prompts you to change it, so my suggestion to you is to keep your password something ‘meaningful’, something which keeps reminding your about your ‘goals’ for at least next 30/45 days. Good examples are – ‘drinkwater2Liter’; ‘eatHealthy2day’, etc etc.

104)  Keep meaningful, positive living reinforcing passwords.

कुछ बन जाते है

बहुत दिनों से इस की तलाश थी, आज जा के मिली तो सोचा इसे यहाँ दर्ज़ कर देते कही फिर से  खो न जाये.
उदय प्रकाश जी की बेहतरीन कविता। .... कुछ बन जाते है.

कुछ बन जाते है 

तुम मिसरी की डली बन जाओ
मैं दूध बन जाता हूँ
तुम मुझ में
घुल जाओ

तुम ढ़ाई साल की बच्ची बन जाओ
मैं मिसरी घुला दूध हूँ मीठा
मुझे एक सांस में पी जाओ

अब मैं मैदान हूँ
तुम्हारे सामने दूर तक फ़ैला हुआ
मुझ में दौड़ो , मैं पहाड़ हूँ
मेरे कंधो पर चढ़ो और फ़िसलों

मैं सेमल का पेड़ हूँ
मुझे ज़ोर ज़ोर से झकझोरो और
मेरी रुई को हवा की तमाम परतों में
बादलों के छोटे छोटे टुकड़ों की तरह
उड़  जाने दो

ऐसा करता हूँ की मैं अखरोट बन जाता हूँ
तुम उसे चुरा लो
और किसी कोने में छिपकर
चुप चाप उसे  तोड़ो

गेहूँ का दाना बन जाता हूँ मैं
तुम धुप बन जाओ
मिटी हवा पानी बन कर
मेरे भीतर के रिक्त कोशो में लुकछुप्पी खेलो
या कोपल हो कर मेरी किसी गाँठ से कही से भी तुरंत फूट जाओ

तुम अँधेरा बन जाओ
मैं बिल्ली बन कर दबे पाओं
चलूँगा चोरी चोरी

क्यों न ऐसा करे
मैं चीनी मिटी का प्याला बन जाता हूँ
और तुम तश्तरी
और हम कही से गिर के एक साथ टूट जाते है सुबह सुबह

या मैं गुब्बारा बनता हूँ नीले रंग का
तुम उसके भीतर की हवा बन कर फैलो
और बीच आकाश में मेरे साथ फूट  जाओ

या फिर ऐसा करते है के
हम कुछ और बन जाते है....... 

Rule# 103

If someday you find all these rules and norms around too academic, my only suggestion for you would be – ‘go for a walk’. Yes, just get going, switch off your phone, no music, nothing. Just walk, walk in streets, in parks, in crowd, anywhere just walk.

103) Drink lots of water and just WALK.

Rule# 102

If one day you find your trousers are sliding down your waist and you need a belt to keep it in right place, then there is a good possibility that your ‘paunch’ is getting rounder and pushing your pants down with every breath. 

102)  Keep your paunch in check.

Rule# 101

By lamenting over past or worrying about future keeps on robbing our present, which kills the future and soon becomes past.

101) Remember,  Anxiety about future and regrets of past are the WORST enemies of the present.